Week 3 of the Fast: Boundaries, Breakthroughs & Beyoncé’s Disrespectful Ticket Prices
This fast changed my life… but also, I might still need that seafood boil for research purposes.
The Final Stretch & Unexpected Lessons
Week 3 of the fast really had me in my feelings, in my boundaries, and in my imaginary Chanel purse. The discipline? Tested. The revelations? Eye-opening. The desire for Five Guys? Fading… kinda.
Going into the final week, I was excited and determined. I had already seen so many benefits—physically, mentally, spiritually. I could literally see the glow, and I knew it wasn’t just the fast. It was the Holy Spirit moving, strengthening my bond with God.
And as much as I wanted Five Guys at the start of this fast, by Week 3, I was like… do I even need this anymore? I started questioning everything about the way I eat. Pescatarian? Vegetarian? TBD. But let’s be real, I have to eat a seafood boil first before I make any final decisions. For research purposes, of course.
Faithful Favor (FF): Self-Forgiveness & Letting Go
Let me tell y’all about Gentle Reminders by Bianca Sparacino. I need to have a little chat with Ms. Sparacino because WHY were Chapters 3 & 4 so deep in my business?! But also… thank you, because you were absolutely right.
One of the hardest things I’m learning? I have to forgive myself. Not just for past mistakes, but for how I used to survive.
For so long, I was in constant survival mode. Pleasing people, making myself small, doing whatever I had to do just to make it through. I never realized that I don’t have to live like that anymore. God isn’t calling me to just get by—He’s calling me to live.
✨ “You are not weak. There’s a resounding level of courage in being the person who continues to heal—even when it hurts.”
✨ “Forgive yourself for how you didn’t show up for yourself.”
✨ “You may carry it well, but that doesn’t mean it’s yours to hold.”
That last one? Yeah, that one sat me down.
📖 Isaiah 43:18-19 (ERV) – “Forget what happened before, and do not think about the past. Look at the new thing I am doing. It is already happening. Don’t you see it?”
Because the truth? You can’t love someone into their potential. And that applies to your friends, your family, your bae, your fur baby—EVERYONE.
At some point, you have to stop waiting, hoping, and overextending for people who aren’t willing to meet you halfway. Whether it’s relationships, friendships, family dynamics, or even that one person you can’t quite figure out—do they actually like you, or are they secretly plotting your downfall? If they aren’t ready to show up, that’s on them.
And what I won’t do? Keep draining myself trying to hold people together when they won’t do the same for me. Because, respectfully, even Miss Queen B herself wasn’t holding us together with those ticket prices. Now Giselle, absolutely disrespectful. I will have a real life boogie hoedown in my living room, rubbing my fuzzy socks together, watching it on Youtube.
Soul & Sanity (SS): Boundaries, Obedience & Discipline
📖 Matthew 6:34 MSG – “Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow.”
This week, I was really trying to pick my battles. If I was annoyed, overwhelmed, anxious—even when I felt that familiar rage creeping up—I’d pause and pray:
“God, I don’t know if I can do this alone. I need you to work through me in this moment.”
And in the moments where flesh won? I gave myself grace. Old me would’ve spiraled into a depressive episode, beating myself up for not “getting it right.” But this time? I just thanked God for showing me where I still need work.
And let’s talk about Harlem. If you know, you know. My therapist helped me realize that Harlem is my anger, my rage, my survival instinct. And WHY would I want to be in spaces that make me feel like I need to be that version of myself?
📖 Proverbs 4:23 (ERV) – “Above all, be careful what you think because your thoughts control your life.”
The minute I felt Harlem creeping in, I knew it wasn’t just me—it was the enemy testing me. But I rebuke that! God loves Him some me!
Final Thoughts: Thank You, God, for Grace, Mercy & Lessons
This fast taught me more than I can even put into words. But here’s what I do know:
✨ I can’t fix people. I can only fix my perspective.
✨ I’m done over-explaining myself. If someone doesn’t see my heart, that’s on them.
✨ Self-forgiveness is necessary. It’s time to reclaim my joy.
At the end of the day, this wasn’t about food. It was about faith. It was about discipline, surrender, and trusting God’s timing.
And honestly? I’m excited for what’s next. Even if it’s still to be determined.
📖 Mark 10:27 (ERV) – “With man this is impossible, but not with God; all things are possible with God.”
This verse means so much to me for a very special reason. (Love you, Nana. That’s my girl.) 💛
TBD: Your Turn
Now it’s your turn—let’s hear it, start typing.
💭 Have you ever found yourself waiting on clear instructions from God but only hearing “Just keep moving”?
💭 How do you set boundaries without guilt?
💭 What’s one lesson on obedience you’ve learned that shifted your perspective?
Leave a comment, and let’s talk. 💛